I actually can’t believe I’m writing this as I’ve come 180 degrees from my first thoughts on the matter 5 years ago. “Who on earth would spend thousands of hard-earned dollars for an event professional to coordinate a party where everybody are friends of the hosts?”… were my thoughts. What could possibly go so wrong to warrant the expenditure? This was before I watched what happens when Aunt Pearl or sorority sister Becky or catering specialist Emile convinced the bride-to-be that they could easily handle whatever it took.
You want to save money. Check. You want as little stress as possible on your wedding day. Check. You have a ton of decisions, multiple options, plenty of ideas and mounting expectations. Check.
SPEND THE MONEY on a professional. I say professional because that’s what it will take to pull this thing off without a (or too many) hitch. A relative, a good friend who got married once, or a Type-A friend who convinces you he/she does this sort of stuff all the time will only serve you with post wedding regrets about ‘what could have been’.
As the bride you know what you want and may even think you could handle the load because you’ve planned large events before BUT – You don’t want to direct the wedding, you want to be the star.
I recently had a conversation with the mother of a bride-to-be who told me they were intending to use the caterer as the wedding coordinator for their daughter’s wedding. This person had convinced them that multi-tasking was her forte and it wouldn’t be a problem. When asked what I thought I told her in no uncertain terms; bad idea. The caterer markets their ability in preparing and serving food NOT in keeping a timeline, attending to details and problems that always crop up, ensuring the flow of events and people is seamless. What happens when the caterer’s food is hot and ready to be served to 100 guests and the bridal party is nowhere to be found because they’re off with the photographer or greeting family and friends at the bar?
There are a hundred balls in the air beginning on Friday morning of the wedding weekend. A professional wedding coordinator will be 1/4 drill sergeant, 1/4 Martha Stewart, 1/4 unemotional problem solver, and 1/4 magician to keep the balls from falling and give you the best day of your life.
So … Who on earth would spend thousands of hard-earned dollars for an event professional to coordinate a party where everybody are friends of the hosts? The smart bride-to-be.